Do you get nervous when you’re talking to your crush? Do your palms get sweaty and you can’t stop shaking or twitching your leg when he approaches you?
It takes a certain skill to be able to speak to your crush with a calm and collected persona when he’s conversing with you. Confidence and self assurance are definitely key factors that will help you be less nervous when he’s around. Here are some tips to help you have the confidence you need to talk to your crush.
Ask questions. One way to have a conversation with your crush is to ask him questions. How’s his day going? What’s he currently working on? This is your chance to get to know him a little better. Plus, if you’re asking the questions, he’ll be doing all the talking.
He’s human too. I know it sometimes seems like your crush is a Greek god, but he’s actually just human too. He gets nervous just like the rest of us. Think of him as a good friend that you’re close to, and try not to view him as a status symbol. By not putting him on a pedestal, you’re placing both of you on the same level which may make it easier for you to talk to him. Just keep reminding yourself that he’s probably nervous too when he’s talking to you. Keep that thought in mind when you talk to him to help you have a more relaxed conversation.
Listen more. There are times where we just go off on a ramble and completely don’t realize it. We tent to do this when we’re nervous. Men often tune us out when we’re rambling on and on about something they don’t care about. Instead, listen more to what he has to say. You’ll get to know what he finds important and the things he cares about. This becomes a deeper conversation which can lead to a deeper emotional connection.
Be yourself. Often when we talk to our crush, we say things to make him believe we’re the girl he wants to be with. As you get to know each other better and better, the girl he thinks he’s talking to might not actually be who you truly are. Be yourself right from the start, and you won’t have to pretend to be another person later on. If you continue to pretend, he’ll realize what you’re doing and won’t be able to trust you. Start off on the right foot and be yourself. He’ll like you much more for it.
Be open. If you’re trying to connect with your crush, one important trait is to be open. When he asks you things, don’t clam up and deflect the question. Answer honestly, and you’ll build a level of trust between each other. The more you open up, the easier it becomes to talk to him. When you open yourself up, he’ll start doing the same.
Smile. A man can’t refuse a woman who always has a smile on her face. By showing your positive attitude, he’s more inclined to have a conversation with you. Laugh at his jokes and smile at him when you pass each other. It will create an environment filled with ease which will make conversation lighter and more relaxed.
Ask for his help. Sometimes the hardest part of talking with your crush is striking up the conversation. A great way to do that is to ask for his help. Ask him to help you reach for that mug that’s too high or to help you fix a door that’s broken. When a man is needed for help, it makes him feel masculine and manly, which will also help him see you as a lady. A man just can’t resist helping a damsel in distress.
The next time you see your crush, don’t worry about what you have to say or how you’re looking. By just putting yourself out there, you’re creating a chance for a connection. The only way for him to get to know you is for you to open up and be yourself. Ask him questions or for help to get the conversation started. Once it starts flowing, your nerves will go away, and you’ll have a great talk with your crush. Who knows where this can lead!
